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We wanted to share our birth story with you- it's quite a story for sure- not what we expected at all!!
I have to start by saying I was very inspired by your classes and reading over other's stories on your Facebook page. That was probably some of my biggest motivation actually to try to do this naturally. Reading the stories of women who had labored at home just long enough to basically get to the hospital just in time to deliver was what I had decided I also wanted to try to do and I told Shayne that at around week 37 or so.
When we last saw you in class we had switched doctors and felt good about where we were going with Dr. Ciaburri and she had been open to some "natural induction" methods vs just scheduling us for an induction. Fast forward to week 39 and 40 and she was wanting to schedule us for an induction because she was going to be "on call" during part of week 41.
I was really disheartened to hear all this because that was not how I felt at our initial appointment with her, that it sounded like she would not have brought any of that up and that we would be able to have a little more flexibility with our anticipated delivery and doing what we wanted. I didn't think that Shayne was going to be on board for too much discussion about the induction- he had been pretty anxious as it was from about week 38 or so, with it really ramping up around week 39. When we went to the 39 week appointment the nurse asked me if I wanted to be checked and I didn't- but Shayne said well why are we here then? Just to say hello? He was very much more into the nesting phase of it then I think I ever got and just overall anxious about all of it and ready for baby to come.
To my surprise, after further conversation between he and I and our doula, Katherine Jackson, Shayne was more on board than I was anticipating with trying to negotiate with Dr. Ciaburri to buy us another day or two possibly or to possibly not even go in for the "scheduled induction" if it came down to that.
I had a pre-natal massage with some acupressure the day before I would be officially 41 weeks. We'd also had sex and I'd been doing some nipple stimulation. Katherine and I had discussed castor oil as well and I was maybe going to do it on Sunday but decided to wait.
Monday is week 41 and we go to our dr apt with Dr. Ciaburri @ 10:30 AM. I am barely 1 cm dilated and 30% effaced and she made what she said was a "weak attempt" at sweeping my membranes due to the fact I was not very dilated.
At our 40 week appointment she said she was going to go ahead and reserve a spot for us for induction on Wed and Thurs of week 41 because she was "on call " those days. We discussed with her at the week 41 apt, that we felt that her being "on call" was a poor excuse as to why we should come in for the induction and we were fully prepared for her to not be the dr that actually delivered the baby and that we really wanted to avoid induction if at all possible.
She agreed to schedule us for Thursday into Friday possible induction- which was an extra day we managed to negotiate with her.
She also mentioned the castor oil and I decided I would do it that night.
I had some minor cramping Monday afternoon, thought nothing of it- it really wasn't that bad. I did a few errands, relaxed some, and we had dinner.
At 8 pm, I mixed the castor oil with some peanut butter and put it on a piece of toast and ate that as quickly as possible- although it really wasn't all that bad tasting, but I wanted to get it over with.
I had done a few things after I ate the castor oil, even though Katherine had said I should go straight to bed- but I knew I would not be able to sleep.
By 10:30 I was ready to lay down and go to bed- just relax. As we were laying there I told Shayne that something just felt different, my stomach felt flatter, didn't feel as round- I just felt different.
By 11:30, I was starting to get really uncomfortable in the bed. I tried a few different positions laying there and was really having a hard time just laying there. I decided to try the polar bear position to see if this was Braxton hicks contractions or if it was the castor oil or what was going on.....Well, I couldn't hold the polar bear position for the full 20 minutes and had to get up.
I walked around downstairs in the dark, started timing what I was guessing were contractions, went back and forth from the bathroom to walking around the house. I didn't necessarily use the bathroom- but sitting on the toilet- as uncomfortable as it was- was the best place for me. I also brought our yoga ball upstairs and tried to use that but was pretty uncomfortable sitting on it. I tried to lay down in one of the extra bedrooms in our house and was not able to do that either.
I think I lost my mucus plug somewhere around 12 and 1 AM- not 100% sure that is what it was- but at the same time I was pretty sure that was it based on it's appearance.
Shayne got up at about 1:00 AM to see what was going on and what I had been doing. I was in our downstairs bathroom which is basically big enough for just me- so he sat outside the door and we talked about a few things and what was going on. He eventually convinced me to move upstairs even though I really didn't want to go upstairs.
We got to about 2:00 AM and I will admit- I told him I thought we needed to go to the hospital and I wanted some drugs. I was afraid that if the castor oil was just giving me really bad cramps- that I'd be going through this for the next 10 hours and then it would all be over and it would have been a waste. If that had been the case- there was NO way I'd be trying the castor oil again I told myself!! I also was getting a little concerned that I couldn't get comfortable in really most any position and that we could possibly have a long night ahead of us- so I was wanting to go get checked and see how far along I was as well as possibly talk about a small dosage of an epidural or trying some nitrous oxide or something.
3 :00 AM rolls around and I'd voiced my wants again- but Shayne stayed strong and kept saying no- that's not what I really wanted to do. We really didn't talk much at all throughout the whole night., I was in a zone. I tried to keep hydrated and all the snacks we bought a few weeks before for during labor remained in the Target bag (but came to the hospital with us). He would keep recommending positions or things to try- to which I said there was no way I could do those positions, I was good where I was. The time kept moving and we get to 5 AM. Contractions are much longer and getting closer together.
Shayne called Katherine and she said she'd be at our house in about an hour. Shayne had also gotten me into the shower at this point, which led to a hot bath shortly after. We called the on call dr and they said to come on into the hospital and they would check me. I figured the on call dr probably laughed at me and thought to herself that I would get there and nothing would be gong on because of course when she was on the phone with me, I was on a break from a contractions so I sounded perfectly normal....no moaning or groaning or anything and I was able to have the brief conversation with her.
We both silently though to ourselves- maybe we should have Katherine just meet us at the hospital- but neither of us voiced that to the other, so we just kept waiting for Katherine to arrive at the house.
6;15 and Katherine arrives- she comes up to see me and wipes my face down with a wet cloth and essential oils while Shayne is getting some things together for the hospital. Katherine and I talked briefly and worked through some contractions.
Katherine encourages me to try leaning on all 4's over a yoga ball- in which I could barely tolerate- and the contractions suddenly produced a feeling of needing to push or a lot of pressure. I was out of that position about as quickly as I got into it.
Katherine then encouraged me to do the "slow dance" position with Shayne and Katherine was behind me rubbing my lower back. As we were discussing travel options and leaving for the hospital- I felt a trickling down my leg. I said either I'm peeing or my water just broke. Katherine said- no, that was your bloody show and said that we should definitely be heading towards the hospital.
I put on a robe and they get me downstairs. Shayne finishes loading up the car which seems like forever and Katherine stayed with me. I had another very strong urge to push and fought very hard against it. We finally make our way out the door and to the car and I have a few more strong urges to push while we are on our way to the car.
Before we walked out the door- I had told both of them I really thought we needed to just go to JW not St. Francis because JW is a mile from our house. We decided to try to make it to St. Francis anyways.....It is about 7:05 or so by the time we finally get me into the car and are headed out.
Katherine gets in her car behind us and I get in our front seat facing backwards on my knees so I was hugging the back of the front seat.
We pass JW and get about a mile and a half down the road and I looked up and saw where we were and thought- we are not going to make it to St. Francis....there is no way. I had another strong urge to push and told Shayne that I either needed to poop or push or something and I didn't want to poop in the car. He said, do whatever you have to do, don't worry about it. I didn't even really have to work that hard at my push- it was just one good push and there was a gush of fluids and I almost immediately felt better. Shayne said oh my gosh- Our baby is here! He's here and he's ok and he's crying!!
I looked down and in between my legs, our baby had landed perfectly on the front seat of our car!! He was crying and shaking and I said to Shayne turn around and go to JW, and he of course was already in the process of doing this.
We pulled up to the ER entrance with Katherine quickly behind us- and Shayne ran into the ER and said "My wife just had our baby in the car" and ran back outside to me. Within about a minute, we were surrounded by about 15 hospital staff members. They cleaned the baby up and cut the cord. They brought a stretcher out for me and after they were done with baby, I got onto the stretcher. They put the baby on my chest and wheeled us up to a room in the L & D unit.
One of the on call dr's from the OB group I was seen by was there and delivered the placenta and stitched me up while some nurses took care of our baby boy.
It was one of the craziest days of my life!! I can't believe how it happened! I honestly had some doubts that I was going to be able to do any of the labor naturally and how long would I be able to do it before we actually even got to that day. At one point, some of my concerns were during labor- if it's this bad now- how much worse can the pain get? But what's funny too- is that it wasn't really pain. The contractions were painful at moments, but I was surprised at just about everything about the whole process.
You always hear about people that have their babies in their cars and now I've done that!! Crazy....while it had an unexpected ending- I got everything I wanted. No medical interventions, no inductions, no drugs, delayed cord clamping and we had the baby before I could even get to the hospital.
I'm so glad we found you and your classes- it was truly an experience I will never forget and so much of it was inspired by you and other women who have gone down this road before me.